You are not alone
Jung defines a complex as "an agglomeration of associations — a sort of picture of a more or less complicated psychological nature — sometimes of traumatic character, sometimes simply of a painful and highly toned character".
For example, someone with an inferiority complex is likely to have strong reactions to questions that may invalidate an idea they have — even though these questions might stem from genuine curiosity.
A particular complex can be viewed as a theme of associations, in the previous example, this would include reactions that make the individual feel inferior. Jung goes further to say that "a complex with its given tension or energy has the tendency to form a little personality of itself. It has a sort of body, a certain amount of its own physiology. It can upset the stomach".
You are not alone. These complexes have their own wants and desires. We can only be aware of them when they become alive as they are called forth through a certain kind of resonance with reality. The physical reaction to public speaking, for example, can only be felt when in front of a crowd. We are unable to properly visualize a situation; It is thus that elements of the unconscious are only revealed to us through experience.
To the great dismay to the academic, one must therefore conclude that one cannot become wise only by reading. For all his philosophical eloquence, Schopenhauer famously pushed a woman down the stairs for being too loud. Wittgenstein too was prone to such transgressions. We might paraphrase the old adage, to instead say, "complexes talk louder than words".
An individual who is always reacting is like a blind king who takes all his subjects too seriously. He becomes possessed by their frenzy and starts to think that their rage is his own. It is only by opening his eyes that he may rule with clarity.
The wise realize they are not alone. Perhaps it is this why the second half of the Dao De Ching teaches one how to rule. After all, this book of wisdom tells us that: "He who conquers others is strong; he who conquers himself is mighty".
Chapter 57 - Tao Te Ching
Rule a nation with justice.
Wage war with surprise moves.
Become master of the universe without striving.
How do I know that this is so?
Because of this!
The more laws and restrictions there are,
The poorer people become.
The sharper men’s weapons,
The more trouble in the land.
The more ingenious and clever men are,
The more strange things happen.
The more rules and regulations,
The more thieves and robbers.
Therefore the sage says:
I take no action and people are reformed.
I enjoy peace and people become honest.
I do nothing and people become rich.
I have no desires and people return to the good and simple life.